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23.2 Success Intolerance

Maintaining Success

With only 3% of folks who lose weight maintaining it long term, there must be something else going on than the ‘diet’ being unsustainable. What is the key to long lasting success when it comes to our habits?


All right, so in this video, I want to talk about capacity to have or what’s also known as success intolerance. And I have a really good podcast on this that I’m going to invite you to listen to. But ultimately this is going to be for the future. What we’re talking about in terms of success intolerance or capacity to have is our ability to fit with our success.

So often people will lose weight, but then because of who they’ve been over the past 40 years, because we identify ourselves as dieters, or we’re constantly looking for that next diet, or we’re constantly looking at what foods can I have or what food can I not. That we identify ourselves as someone who is constantly losing weight. And when we no longer have to do that, we don’t really know how to be anymore.

So, we know that 97% of people who go on a diet and lose weight will regain it within three to five years. And so, we know that diets don’t work long-term. But I also want to suggest that there may be a little bit of self-sabotage going on here. That when we lose weight, and it feels really uncomfortable and it’s something that just kills us inside. Because we’re like, I’m finally glean. I’m finally the weight that I want to be. And yet, I want to jump out of my skin because it feels so uncomfortable.

And so, when we are able to just sit with, our new body, our new identity, and really learn how it is that we need to be. I think that we’re going to be successful. And so, just be aware that if you have trouble staying at your goal weight, I want to suggest that once you get there, that you make a pact with yourself, that you will stay there for the next six to 12 months. And really just practice being in your body at this lower weight. Learning how you are learning what your new identity is.

And really honoring yourself and being willing to put that inner critic away, so that you don’t have to listen to her anymore. Because the person who is successful is of course, going to be able to go out and have treats. Their weight is going to go up a few pounds, it’s totally okay. They know exactly what they need to do in order to go down again. And that’s going to be you.

So, the more you can practice not being a dieter anymore, but being someone, being the identity of someone who naturally manages her weight. Who doesn’t have cravings, who loves to exercise, who does all of these amazing things? The more that you practice that identity now, the better off you’re going to be when you get there. All right?

So, go listen to that podcast and I’ll see you in the next video.

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