When it comes to changing our health habits, we know that what we DO creates our results. Therefore, weight loss or health is not a destination, but a practice. There’s no perfect. There’s just doing better, growing, and developing yourself. There’s no done.
So, this is just the beginning of the next phase. What will it be?
Okay. So, we are done with the program. However, that does not mean that you are done. Right? This is a journey, it’s not a destination. And so, I think that that is actually such an important concept to keep in mind as you move forward after this program is over. And that is that we think when we started this, that we’re going to be done when I lose the weight and then I can go back to my old behaviors.
And if you’ve done that before, you know that you just end up back where you were before. Our actions create our results. Right? And so, hopefully, at this point, you understand that since your actions create your results, you want to keep behaving and doing the things that are creating results for you today.
Sure. There are lots of different like techniques and things like that, that you can employ. However, again, how we think and how we feel will impact the things that we do. And so, if we are doing things and we feel resentful of it, our body is going to feel it. It’s going to feel the stress. It’s going to feel the resistance that you have and it’s not going to comply. It’s not going to do what you wanted to do.
So, the more you can really focus on I’m doing these things because I want to be healthy, not because I want the results. Then, your body will start to trust you. Okay. You will start to earn trust with your body. And the more that you can create that trust between your brain and your body, the more you will ultimately get to the goal that you want to be.
And again, this is going to be something that is completely ongoing. Now, something that I want to point out is again, this isn’t the destination. Because I’ve talked about this before, when we started out, you probably have an idea of I want to weigh this amount of weight, or I want to feel this way, or whatever it is. The goalpost move.
So, as we get closer to the goal, as we get closer to what our ideal is. The goalposts shifts and our ideal changes as well. So, where we thought like today, you might say, you know what? When I think about the version of myself six months ago and how I’m eating today, she probably would have thought that how I’m eating today is pretty perfect.
But now that I’m here today, I can see that I still have a way to go. And so, there’s this concept called the gap and the gain. Most of us will measure our progress to the gap. So, how much further we have to go. And what I want to suggest is that if we measure our progress from where we started, instead of where we have to go.
Then, we are going to be so much happier. Because again, this gap is always going to be there. We are never going to actually get to the place where we have achieved and our lower brain allows us to be happy for more than maybe a few days, maybe a week, possibly a month, I don’t know.
But so, the more that we can really appreciate and focus on where we’ve come versus where we have to go, the happier we’re going to be. And that’s all we want. Right? We all just want to be happier in our lives.
And so, if we have the lower brain that’s constantly barking at us, telling us that we’re not doing enough, that we still have this huge gap. Instead of refocusing that inner critic and focusing on how much we’ve progressed. Then, we actually have the opportunity to be a little bit happier. So, focus on the gain and not the gap.
The other piece that I want to recommend is I recorded a podcast. It was called the stages of change. And there are six different stages of change, right? There’s what we call pre-contemplation, which is when we’re not even aware of what we don’t know. There’s contemplation, which is when we start contemplating like, huh, I might want to make a change.
Preparation is when we actually, you know start preparing for the change in that might be researching, looking up information, researching gyms, whatever it is. Looking at different diets, different ways of eating, you know, just gathering information.
And then, going from preparation into action is actually one of the hardest parts. So, when we move into action, that’s when we actually start doing the techniques that we’ve been researching. And then, once those techniques become habit, then we move into the maintenance phase. We normally think that maintenance is going to be home free, we’re done.
But quite often there’s a sixth phase, which is actually called relapse. Now, we’ve talked about failure before. And how we look at relapse is going to be 100%. The difference between being successful and not. Because if we look at relapse as just a natural part of the process and we move back into action and maintenance very quickly. Then, there’s no problem. Right?
It’s kind of like the how we think about our results is going to create our future results. If you look at the relapse as, oh my gosh, I’ve completely failed and I’m never going to be healthy again. Then, chances of us getting back into action are pretty slim.
The quicker you can move through that process, the better. And so, the stages of change are completely fluid. You’re going to be moving in and out of them. And I want to suggest that you can look at that in other areas of your life as well. Maybe parenting, maybe learning a language, maybe learning how to play guitar, whatever it is. Whatever your behavior change is that you want to implement. You’re going to see it in other areas of your life too.
So, be aware that there’s a sixth stage of change, which is relapse. And it’s going to happen. Expect it. It’s normal and there’s no judgment about it. All right? That’s all I have for you in this video. I’ll see you in the next one.