The more preparation that you can give yourself in trying to imagine special events & really think through what is going to happen – instead of just hoping for the best, the better equipped you will be to not lift up your hands & say “eff it”!
All right, in this video, I want to talk about visualizing success. And when I’m talking about visualizing success, we’ve talked about visualization before in a month two. But in this concept right here, in month two, we were talking about visualization as it pertains to the future versions of ourselves who exist in six months, or a year, or five years, or some period of time down the road. Like, who do we want to grow into?
But I want to talk about visualization again, but on a more micro level, on a very close to home level. And what I mean by that is I want you to start visualizing the more immediate future. And you can do this a couple of different ways. So, for example, one of the things that we want to do is we want to start changing our behavior. And how we do that is we decide ahead of time that what we’re going to do and then we stick to the plan.
Now, our brain does not like doing things differently than it did before. And so, I think that so often when we decide that we’re going to do something differently. Whether it’s; “okay, at three o’clock when I normally have my three o’clock craving, I’m just not going to eat anymore.” Or after dinner, I know that I’m going to have this craving, but we’re just not doing that anymore.
And so, it comes quite a shock to us when that event happens and we’re like, “oh my God, I wasn’t prepared to deal with this.” And so, one of the ways that we can use visualization is when we are starting to process our emotion. Whether it’s sadness, whether it’s anxiety, or whether it’s just trying to get rid of a craving. We know that we are going to have a physical response to that.
And so, what can really be helpful is expecting it ahead of time and then planning for it. So, what that might look like on a regular basis on a daily basis is deciding, “okay, so I really want to stop eating after dinner.” So, what that means is that on these three days, I’m going to either not eat entirely or where I normally have chocolate, I’m going to have some yogurt and strawberries instead, whatever it is. Okay?
So, you know that you’re going to want the chocolate, but you instead have something else. And so, expecting that you’re going to feel that nervousness in your body. And so, really visualizing, “okay, what am I going to be wearing tonight?” Where am I going to be sitting? What’s going to happen? What are the thoughts that are going to come up in my head? And then, what do I want to do in response to it?
And so, when we’re trying to get rid of an urge entirely, we have to “go cold turkey.” Switching from eating your normal chocolate to having something like strawberries and yogurt is a good first step. But at some point, we’re going to have to pull the cord and just break away from it. So, at some point, we’re going to have to say, “okay, I’m going to feel that nervous energy.” I know what that’s going to feel like cause I felt it before, and this is what I’m going to do instead.
I’m going to really tune into my body. I’m just going to feel it. I’m going to think about how I’m going to feel tomorrow morning and how much lighter I’m going to feel. I’m going to think about how proud I’m going to be and so on and so forth. So, we want to visualize us experiencing the discomfort and then what we are going to do in response to it. Okay? So, that’s one example of visualizing success.
Another example that I want to share with you is whether you’re going on vacation, or whether you’re going to go to a party, or a barbecue, or whatever it is. I want you to really think about, what it’s going to be like there? So often, we believe that we’re going to be perfect.
And so, we think, “oh, well, I’m going to go on vacation,” but I’m so excited about what I’m doing right now that when I go on vacation, I’m going to be able to resist all of the delicious foods and I’m going to want to exercise. And I get it, that’s all very well intentioned. But when we walk into a situation, believing that things are going to be perfect or believing that we’re going to be able to do that stuff. It’s really setting us up for failure.
And so, what I want you to do is really think realistically about past experiences that you’ve had, what you’ve done then, and really think about how that’s going to come true in the future. Now, one of the things that you can also use is really thinking about deciding ahead of time, what you are going to do in certain situations?
So, really visualizing yourself at the party, imagining someone that giving you a glass of wine where you had already decided that you were only going to have two glasses. And maybe this was the third or maybe you decided that you wanted to drink full glasses. Let it go all the way down to the bottom. Grab yourself some water and then have another glass of wine. And meanwhile, the host is going around topping everyone’s glasses off, and you don’t want to do that.
So, imagine like, what it’s going to feel like when you put your hand over the top and are like, sorry, I don’t want that to happen. It’s going to feel awkward. It’s going to feel strange. And how do you want to respond to that? So, I really want you to imagine setting yourself up for success. Like, really thinking about the process of what this event is going to look like.
Because when we can do that, chances are, we’re going to be so much more successful than if we just like say, I’m not going to think about it. And then, not thinking, not anticipating some of the problems that are going to come up and then failing through it. Okay? So, this is just an exercise that I want you to go through because the more we can visualize, the more we can practice ahead of time being successful and doing what we want, the better off we’re going to be. All right?
So, that’s all I have for you in this video. I’ll see you in the next one.