As we start to learn how to process our feelings and not turn to food as a distraction from feeling emotion, of course you are going to fall into old habits. The way to make it not mean that you’re hopeless is to notice that it happens less and less frequently.
When we have an upsetting event where we turn to food instead of allowing the emotions, we want to get curious. WHY did it happen? WHAT could I have done differently? WHY did I not follow the plan?
All right, let’s talk about upsetting events. They’re going to happen. They even happen to me today. And as much as we would love to get rid of emotional eating, I don’t think that’s going to be possible. Because we eat emotionally when we celebrate, and we don’t want to get rid of that. Right?
What we want to do is we don’t want to overeat or overindulge when we are celebrating or when we’re comforting ourselves. And so, I think what you’ll find through the course of time is that as you get better with not overeating with eating just enough and through the process of processing your emotions instead of eating to buffer with your emotions.
These things are going to take a little bit of time. Your brain is still like, “oh, it’s so much easier to just eat instead of feel the sadness, or eat instead of feel the boredom, or eat or drink instead of feeling the frustration or the anxiety.” and as we go through these, and as you get better at feeling the emotions, and not running to those external substances, it will get better. Okay?
Now, here’s what’s going to happen also, you may never completely get over it. But I think what you’re going to experience is that every time you do, it’s going to get less, and less, and less. You’re going to overeat less, you’re going to overdrink less, you’re going to spend less time or less money on Amazon as an escape for whatever you were frustrated or wanting to feel better about yourself for.
So, what will happen is over time, the effects will get smaller, and smaller, and smaller. And I really want you to celebrate those wins. Okay? Now, there are two worksheets below. One is called “upsetting event” and the other one is called “write it down, move on.” And in those worksheets, I think that they’re really important so that we can deconstruct what happened that made us overeat, or made us over-drink, or whatever it is that you’re having judgment on yourself about.
Now, please don’t skip this step. I know that it’s so tempting to want to say, okay, you know what? I just put that behind me. I don’t want to look at it because it’s too painful. But if we want to learn anything, if we want to get better and stop doing it, we have to look at what happened in order to learn from it. Okay?
And I swear to you, this is going to be one of the most positive experiences if you can really set that aside. Set that pain aside, and really go in, and take the time to write it down, and then be free from the mental chatter that your brain is giving you. Okay?
So, that’s all I have for you in this video, that’s it!